Supporting Individuals with Dementia During the Holidays
The holiday season is upon us! This is a time that is often full of warmth and celebration of traditions. However, for people living with a dementia diagnosis and those who care for them, this time of year can bring increased levels of stress, overstimulation, and other challenges. Staying present, being patient, and planning can make all the difference. This article will highlight compassionate and practical tips to ensure that this holiday season stays meaningful and comfortable for everyone in the home!
Keep the Environment Calm and Predictable
Gatherings, especially during the holidays, which often involve many moving parts and out-of-town visitors, can be filled with increased noise and decorations. This can disrupt the routines that are typically in the home and cause a sense of overwhelm for someone with dementia. To reduce disruptions to routine, try to keep the familiar spaces uncluttered. Also, when attempting to decorate spaces in the home, try to do it gradually or room by room, so the environment does not change all at once. Simple décor may be best to keep some familiarity in the space intact. Keep the environment well-lit with soft lighting and try to have music playing at a soft or moderate volume. These tips can help keep the space predictable and familiar.
Prioritize Routines
Routines help with comfort. It is important to try keeping regularly scheduled meal times, sleep schedules, and daily rituals (e.g., walking at the same time of day). Small adjustments can be acceptable if not avoidable, but try to avoid major disruptions, as they may cause fatigue, confusion, or agitation.
Plan Short, Meaningful Activities
While some holiday traditions can be long and elaborate, they don’t always have to be in order to be special. Select activities that align with your loved one’s comfort level. This may be in the form of a familiar holiday song, looking through old holiday photos, or enjoying a family baking recipe. This can be an amazing time for connection.
Prepare Guests
Not everyone understands dementia and the changes that your loved one is experiencing. Have open and honest conversations with guests before gatherings so that expectations can be set and empathy can be encouraged. If applicable, please inform the guests that your loved one may require more time or become tired more easily. Encourage guests to be patient and use kind communication, speaking sentences simply and at a slower pace if needed.
Have a Retreat Space
Celebrating in shorter visits with fewer people may be more affirming for your loved one with dementia than a big, bustling party. However, if this is not possible, then try to have a retreat space. Planning is a powerful tool to reduce possible overstimulating environmental factors that can arise during a gathering. However, sometimes things go unplanned, and your loved one may need a space to take a break. Having a designated quiet and familiar room can be helpful. Incorporate their favorite comfort items into the space. Examples can include but are not limited to favorite blankets, music, and photo albums. Let them retreat as often as they need, and reassure them that it is okay to take a break.
The Emotional Landscape
The holidays can cause us to reflect on memories. These may be joyful, and some may be bittersweet. Someone with dementia may experience moments of clarity or confusion. This can create an emotionally vulnerable space. Offering a warm hand or reassuring word can help validate their feelings.
Take Care of You, Too!
To all caregivers, whether family members or staff, you give so much of yourselves to help others. Your well-being is essential to maintaining your patience and compassion. Make time for you, too. Ask for support when you need it, and share responsibilities when possible.
We’re Here to Help
If you believe your loved one may benefit from additional support or need help adjusting caregiving hours during this time, please contact our office. We are here to help ensure that your family has comfort, coverage, and peace of mind throughout the season.
